Author: Jessica O'Connor

Gratitude Gravel

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As cold weather is approaching and outdoor visits and activities are limited, I can see the change in attitude and mood in my family.  We thoroughly enjoyed our summer and took full advantage of being able to work from home and spend more time together this summer.  (So much time, that we took a break from the blog 🙂 ) But now there is this looming feeling as we wonder what toll these months will have on our mental health.

At this time, it is really important to take a minute to reflect on what is important and express GRATITUDE for what we have!

The ugly patch before…

We have this really ugly patch in our front yard where a jungle of weeds bursts out each summer and totally drives me nuts!  (Our neighbors too – they love pointing it out 😉  I only wish I had a picture to show the magic of these weeds in the summer)  I have been planning to fill the area with gravel to stunt the weeds’ growth, so decided this was the perfect time to enhance the space while considering GRATITUDE —

…getting a makeover

and so we created our GRATITUDE GRAVEL!

We dug out the area, transported gravel and filled the area — lots of heavy work!  And we did it on a day with some sad and intense emotion so after all that muscle work, our spirits were a bit higher 🙂

We painted stones throughout the week.  It was a nice way to recognize what is important instead of focusing on some of the things we are missing.  Our plan is to continue to add to the garden and also invite family and friends to expand with their own additions of gratitude!

We sprayed the rocks to seal and weatherproof them.  We used this acrylic spray —

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Voila!  Here is our Gratitude Gravel!!  G was so excited to help put this together.  She has big plans to make a sign and invite others to join.  I am excited to see what this little project becomes!

Here are some of our masterpieces up close:


No More Seams!

As parents, we get the occasional 😉 complaint about socks and undies just not feeling right!  But when those complaints start coming daily it might be time to find a solution.


For most of us, once we get dressed, we no longer really notice the clothes on our bodies.  We habituate to the sensation!  But for an individual with sensory sensitivities, they may not be able to habituate as easily, so they end up noticing and feeling those seams all day long!  This can cause them to feel more easily frustrated, because they are already dealing with other frustrations, or lead them to be distracted because their focus continuously shifts to the irritating seam.  Even for those that may not be considered sensory sensitive, if they are all ready dealing with other annoyances, the seam can be the thing to send them over the edge!


There are some strategies to help to alleviate some sensory sensitivities by offsetting with deep touch pressure.

Some things to try –

1. Pillow Sandwich

2. Getting dressed after a shower and burrito (wrap up tightly in a towel)

3. Massaging lotion onto skin before getting dressed


The complaints over here became so frequent, that we began searching for “seamless” socks and undies.  Many of these can be pricey if they are sold specifically for kids with sensory sensitivities.  So we began trying out some products on amazon with great reviews and found some that we love!


Both G and C complain a lot about socks.  But realistically, most of the socks made for kids are character socks.  If you take a look inside, there are so many threads to create the design.  Of course, they are uncomfortable!  So we made the switch to these crew socks and now the kids are chucking their character socks in the trash and searching through the laundry for their “seamless” socks.  These socks are not totally seamless, but very smooth and satisfying for C and G.

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As far as undies, uncomfortable waistbands and elastic around the thigh are common irritants.  So little C totally loves these, very comfortable waistband and no tight elastic!  We bought one pack to try out and he just recently asked to throw away all his other undies and buy more of these!

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So now that we have our seams under control, mornings are a bit easier!  One step at a time, but comfort matters!  The more comfortable these kiddos are, the more able they can handle other little frustrations that occur throughout the day.

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Slime Time!

G was recently inspired by a book she has been reading called “My Pet Slime” and has been begging to make her own pet slime for about a week.  Of course, each time the idea to make slime pops into her head, we are headed out in the car or getting ready for bed.  So finally, after may days of asking, we put it in our calendar to make sure it happened!  I totally love making slime, so thoroughly appreciate her passion.

She gathered up all of the materials to make a slime just like in the book.  C got involved too once all of the materials were out.  My favorite slime recipe calls for:

1/2 cup of Elmer’s glue

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1/4 cup Sta-Flo liquid starch

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And then the extras – food coloring, glitter, googly eyes, bits of foam, or anything else you are inspired to add to your slime!

This was a little too sticky and needed the starch tap!

G poured the glue into a bowl and added many drops of blue and red food coloring until she got the perfect purple!  C added blue food coloring and loads of glitter!  Once they were pleased with the color, they added small amounts of the liquid starch, stirred, let it sit for a couple of minutes and then continued until all of the starch was incorporated.  After the starch is mostly absorbed, it is time to pick it up and knead it!  The more you knead it, the less sticky it becomes. But, if after several minutes, it is still sticky, tap it in a bit more liquid starch.


Then its time to add items and play!  C added several beads and gems and G added 2 giant googly eyes to make her “pet slime”.  She is still working on a name for this little cutey.



We made these creations a few days ago, and if you put them in a cup and cover them, they keep!  This slime pet has been coming out every day for adventures!

Hope this slime recipe brings you as much joy as it does for C and G (and myself 🙂 )


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Drawing Wednesday with C

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G has been making weekly face-to-face calls on Tuesdays to show a card trick to family and friends, and C wanted to be part of the action!  We talked with C about what he thinks he is good at that he could share with others and Drawing Wednesday began!

C chooses a weekly topic and then calls family and friends on our face-to-face app.  They take some time drawing together and then share their artwork.

This has been a great activity to give C a voice.  He is a little more quiet than G and not as quick to engage in conversation.  Making the phone calls and providing a topic helps him to improve his communication skills, feel more connected with family and friends, and share something that makes him feel proud of himself!  He then gets positive feedback about his artwork from family and friends to add to his sense of pride.

Week 1 Topic – Draw your favorite dinosaur

Week 2 Topic – Draw your favorite food as a character

Everyone is looking forward to what topic he comes up with next and for another chance to feel connected!

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We have found that getting out to explore has really broken up our day and given us something to look forward to.  We head into the woods across the street from our house and are thrilled with the opportunity nature lends.

The kiddos immediately start climbing, working on proprioception, body awareness and strength!

Once at the top, they found some long fallen trees to walk along.  How great for balance and the vestibular system!?

They continue to increase their challenge while judging for safety and ability – working on safety and body awareness!

We then have to cross a stream, and their were multiple avenues to get to the other side.  They each made their choice, demonstrating self-efficacy, reflecting their confidence in their ability to accomplish the task.  When returning, they each took a more challenging path increasing self-esteem as they made it successfully!


As we navigated our hike, they were able to point out paths we had taken before and make suggestions for where we should venture this time.  We ended up finding a large pipe that they could crawl the whole way which captivating them for some time!

During each adventuring trip, G and C take turns being the “trailblazer” leading the way and warning the rest of the pack about obstacles along the path.  This allows them to feel empowered to lead and learn responsibility.

Please share what types of adventures you and your family have been on 🙂

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Our finished fort!

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We shared a bit about the fort that we started to built, and it has become quite the project so wanted to update!

After gathering the large sticks, we used bungees to secure them to one another and to the central tree for support.  

We wove some sticks to begin to form walls, but we are going to wait for the trees to bud so we can weave leaves for colorful walls!

We are quite pleased with how it came out and even had our old chair tops from when I refinished our kitchen stools so we can picnic inside!

And our course, with the New England weather, we have been able to enjoy the shelter of the fort during the April snowstorm!!

Happy Fort Building!!


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Spring Sprouts

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We have been taking a lot of nature walks lately, walking slowly, making observations and taking pieces of nature back home to our “collection”.  C was fascinated to find an acorn that was split and there was “something” coming out of it!  This offered a great opportunity to talk about seeds and he was so surprised to learn that a sprout would come out an acorn to create an oak tree.

Each year we plant seedlings and watch them sprout and grow.  We buy the indoor greenhouse with pellets and have great success!
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But I realized that this activity does not show the very beginning stages of growth.  Several years back, when G was at this curious stage, we did an activity where we started seeds in a clear bottle so we could observe the initial sprout.  I went back and found this picture of her and we planned the activity again and made predictions to make it more of a challenge.

For this seed activity, you need a clear bottle with the top cut off, paper towels, and seeds.


1. Wet the paper towels and fill the bottle, with some wiggle room for the seeds to slide in

2. Select several seeds, and fit them with some space in between around the bottle.  You can use a tool like a skewer to help place them where you want

3. Label each seed.  We wrote with Sharpie on the bottle.

4. Place in the sun and observe!

To be more involved in the process we made predictions.  Each kiddo picked 5 seeds and guessed how many days it would take to see the beginning of the sprout and ranked which they thought would be tallest to smallest.  They had clues because we had already planted our seedlings, so they were able to make an educated guess!

Day 7 of our seedlings, cucumber and summer squash are the tallest!

We have been checking in daily to see if their predictions come true!

I will post photo updates later once we have some sprouts 🙂


UPDATE: Here are our sprouts 10 days later 🙂

UPDATE: Here is our BEANSTALK 14 days later!



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Cooking Challenge

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We had a cooking class in 8th grade where I remember feeling quite proud of a recipe in which we rolled up a crescent roll around chocolate chips and baked it!  I found a package of crescent rolls in our fridge, so a challenge presented itself!  The kiddos are always asking “can we make a recipe?” and then filling bowls with pepper and salt and flour and cocoa powder and many other miscellaneous items and asking me to bake it…  I love giving them that independence to explore mixing and pouring, but I also want them to make something that we can actually take out of the oven, eat, and have them feel successful.

So, I presented them with a challenge.  They had to make two roll-ups that we could eat for a meal, and two that we could eat for a dessert.  They could use anything they could find to roll in their crescent, and then we would bake them and share them.

Of course, they dug out the candy!  The “dessert” roll-ups were filled with starbursts, tootsie rolls, swedish fish, and a cookie.  But they were a bit more thoughtful about the “meal” roll-ups, in the end, stuffing them with bologna, raisins, cereal, and creamed corn!

We baked them for 12 minutes, and overall the kids gave great reviews! They were able to make something they felt proud of while still using their own creativity for the recipe!  Top votes for the creamed corn “meal” roll-up and the cookie “dessert roll-up.

**One tip** – the starburst melted and overflowed their roll, burning and sticking to the pan, so you might want to avoid this type of ingredient 😉



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Extra Time for CHORES :)

We are really hot and cold with our chore chart and holding kiddos accountable for household responsibilities, so decided that this is the perfect time to get back on our chore game!  We made it simple with our white board, listing the chores and days of the week.  The kids are responsible for putting their G or C in the box after they accomplish the task.  At the end of the week, we add all of their letters up and they get a small, but motivating, stipend!

Chores may seem tedious for kids, but there are so many great benefits, so its worth the groans and eye rolls!  Plus, once they realize that they can earn money, they get a bit more motivated!

So why chores?


Picking chores that offer opportunities for heavy work can meet two objectives!  1. getting the chores done and 2. self-regulation.  By using the muscles and joints in our bodies, our brain gets comforting information about where the body is in space helping us to feel more grounded.  Think about how good you feel after you clean the house!  This is partially because the act of scrubbing, pushing, and lifting is grounding for your body!  Here are some chores that will provide the most heavy work for kiddos:

Carrying laundry


Picking up toys, heavy ones!

Sweeping, especially on hands on knees

Putting away groceries – carrying heavy bags, sorting cans

Washing windows

Cleaning anything on hands and knees – dusting, washing tabletop/counters, scrubbing floors

Feeling proud of the clean table – scrubbing on hands and knees for some heavy work!


Doesn’t it feel good when you finish cleaning?!  All that scrubbing and tidying not only helps us to feel regulated, but it also gives us a sense of pride.  After the kiddos straighten up their rooms, they most often come out so thrilled for us to see.  They feel so proud when we ask them to help with sweeping the floor and commend them for a good job, or notice them clearing their bowls from the table after breakfast and thank them.  Making a chore chart provides them with reminders of items they can do around the house, which then allows us to offer more positive praise!  Especially now, being in the house, this is a simple way for us to help them to continue feeling good and confident.

Life Skills

Chores will help your children to become more independent.  One day, they will be adults, and isn’t it our job to help them to be functional adults?!  So getting them to pitch in with dishes, laundry, and tidying now will help them to develop skills they will need throughout their life.  Of course it is important to think about what types of chores are age appropriate.



Theme Week!

As the days are dragging and all blending together, we decided we needed something to make each day special.  We made a list of possible theme days and then picked some favorites for our first theme week.  We posted on social media and shared with friends and family so others could join in and we could all feel more connected!  It was really successful;, the kids grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, school friends, and family friends all got involved.  We got pictures texted or posted to social media throughout the day, helping us feel like we are all in this together!  It made the days pass by more quickly with more laughs and focus on the plan for the day, rather than the uncertainty of the week/month/or more…

Here is how our week went:

Monday –  Favorite Color


Tuesday – Sports Team Pride

Wednesday – Crazy Hair

Thursday – Prom with Fancy Dinner

This was definitely our favorite theme day! – from dancing to some real classics 😉 from when we graduated from high school, to letting the kiddos drink tea from our china cups, to dressing up and taking typical prom photos.  The whole evening was a blast!

Friday – was supposed to be dress like your favorite character/animal, but we had so much fun at prom, Friday turned into pajama day!  And we feel like that is okay.  There is no pressure to actually follow through with these as long as each day feels special!

So what themes might you come up with?  We have another week planned and so far we are thinking – career day, dress like your favorite book character, twin day… Let me know what you come up with and how your theme days go!



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